Why Counselling - Doing It or Sourcing It?

That’s a great question which is loaded with all sorts of socialised perceptions.

Perhaps the major perception of counselling is that it often appears basically passive; someone asks questions​and you slowly get more annoyed at them prying into your life.

The current model rests heavily on Rogerian precepts of …well, being nice. And that’s where the problem starts, because there is no reason why you/me/anyone should be ‘nice’ about any form of bad behaviour.
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The Golden rule about counsellors: if they don’t call you on your selfishness, bad behaviours and petty tantrums you’re probably throwing your time and money away.