Sexual Abuse Survivors
You are talking to two people who know!
Both Rob and Bex grew up carrying this separately, in their own personal lives.
For Rob, it meant not knowing who to talk to, or who could make sense of his world. He didn't understand his anger, or some of his behaviours, or why he did some of the things he did. Some of his own emotions scared the hell out of him.
For Bex, it was the same silence in a different life, not knowing who to trust with it, and spending years making sense of feelings and behaviours that felt like they belonged to someone else.
We each still wonder what our lives would have been like if we'd known who to talk to back then. Yet here we both are, enjoying life.
Neither of us thought we'd have this opportunity to walk alongside other survivors. If that's you, let us congratulate you for making it this far; it won't have been easy. The pain from abuse is real, and there are a lot of us out there.
But here's the real question: do you like where you're at now, or have you had enough and want a change? None of us wanted that to happen to us. Often, we simply couldn't control it. But despite what the abusers did, there's one thing they could never take from us — our freedom to choose who we really want to be.
The choice we have today is to keep carrying that pain wherever we go, or turn it into something that draws out the best in us and in those around us. We believe those experiences can make us some of the safest people in society if we address the pain.
Recovery can be a tough journey, and it's only for those willing to embrace the truth.
The good news is, if you've gotten this far, you probably have what it takes. Maybe now is the time to choose who you want to be: still-the-victim, getting-along-survivor, or life-thriver.
Note: Rob is currently the ACC Sensitive Claims provider for Resolve Counselling; Bex is working on getting accredited by ACC for next year, 2027.
Check 'Males' counselling; under services, there is a video worth watching there
Consider This
If you have experienced sexual abuse in the past, come and see Rob or Bex at Resolve Counselling.
You may be familiar with some of these symptoms:
A general and ongoing sense of being ‘wrong’, or of having to be someone else in order to feel ‘safe’
Social avoidance and hiding
The Peter-Pan syndrome where the person never quite grows-up and takes responsibility
Aggression and acting out in aggressive and dangerous ways
Extreme sports and risk-taking – usually attempts to regain a sense of power in life
Insomnia
Flashbacks or uncomfortable feelings regularly flooding through your mind and/or body
Repeated relationship break-downs
Inability to compromise or accept correction
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) symptoms.
We are tripartite beings: consciousness,
mind and body are linked together into the
single identity. Trauma often breaks that
and then our world falls to pieces.
p: 027 232 9192 (Rob)
p: 021 274 3600 (Bex)
