Suffering As A Touchstone for Empathy
March 26, 2020
The way you suffered (experienced pain or distress) can assist you to see the suffering of others around you.This can have significant personal and social virtue, especially if you have healed some of your own pain BEFORE trying to help others.This is not to be confused with...
It Takes An Open Mind To Hold Big Thoughts
March 26, 2020
We can say quite fairly that when we deny reason, we deny truth. This is a statement that is likely to immediately offend some, however it is in that very offence-taking we find why this statement is true.The reaction is innately emotional. Without any consideration to th...
So You Want To Change the World (again)!
March 26, 2020
Last blog I mentioned that we have the face the small things first if we are ever going to truly manage the big.It’s been said that “we can’t dialogue with the things we hide, or cover with judgement or shame”. What that means is we will never be at peace within...
Working On You, Before the World
March 26, 2020
So you want to change the world and make it a better place!It’s worth practising on the small things that are already in your life BEFORE improving the rest of the world.Why? Because if you cannot manage the small relationships around you honestly, you will always live ...
The Truth or Just Truth-Bait?
March 26, 2020
Every lie that sounds ‘good’ will have an element of truth in it; it’s the truth-bit that makes it seem credible.It doesn’t matter if it’s a lie you are telling yourself or telling to someone else, the most effective lies always have an element of truth.That truth-...
Taking Shots At Gossip
March 26, 2020
The last blog mentioned gossips and described their intention to harm others, because they don’t have the strength to be fully open or honest.Their weakness and dishonesty is found in the indirect way they do-and-say things; they rely on selective information and innuendo ...
Rage Addiction
March 26, 2020
Are you addicted to rage? Have you become addicted to the ‘relief’ that follows after venting your shit onto someone else?There is a bio-chemical pathway that can become entrenched and quite addictive if ‘venting’ and having rages is your thing. Some people will...
Relationships: 'Thinking/Guessing'
March 26, 2020
Relationships: it only takes one to make a war, but it takes two to make peace.The problems so often can begin with us thinking we know what the other person wants, but not actually knowing what they want.If we stay in that position of ‘thinking-guessin...
Don't Despise the Day of Small Things
March 26, 2020
An old proverb says “don’t despise the day of small beginnings”, and this carries 2 important ideas simultaneously.First, there is a place for gratitude that must not be forgotten, because anything good that came into your life started small and grew into the goodness ...
Why Counselling - Doing It or Sourcing It?
March 20, 2020
That’s a great question which is loaded with all sorts of socialised perceptions.Perhaps the major perception of counselling is that it often appears basically passive; someone asks questionsand you slowly get more annoyed at them prying into your life.The current model...
